You work really hard, perhaps too hard.
And you’re doing what you believe are
the right things in order to advance your
career. Yet, here you are. In the very same
role where you started. The word “frustrated”
cannot begin to describe what it
feels like to be in this position.
In my work as an executive coach and job
search mentor, I have seen this scenario
countless times. In particular, I see three
things holding people back from being
Failure to self-promote
my career, I daydreamed about receiving
calls from headhunters near and far
asking me to consider new opportunities.
In retrospect, my time would have
been better spent letting my boss and her
colleagues know about all the great work
I was doing, as my daydreams never did
In today’s workplace, there is much
competition for attention. As I wrote in
my book, Suddenly in Charge, you have to
pump up the volume and make enough
noise so people in the organization know
who you are and what you are accomplishing.
You do not want to be obnoxious
in promoting yourself, but others in
the organization need to know your value;
they are not likely to find out unless you
make them aware.
Think about one or two things you are
most proud of and be sure to weave these
accomplishments into your everyday conversation
with your boss and their peers.
Do not worry about sounding boastful.
People will see you as a person of interest,
which is exactly how you want to be seen
in order to get noticed.
Lack of confidence
are the boss and have to decide who to
promote into a leadership position. You
have one employee who is confident
and rarely resorts to second-guessing and
another employee who is always looking
to you for validation. If you are like most
people, you choose the candidate exuding
If you are more like the candidate with
a lot of self-doubt, you need to work on
increasing your confidence level. This
starts with a new mindset: You have to
believe you are in your job because someone
thought you had what it takes to do
the job. Otherwise, they would have hired
someone else. You also have to believe you
deserve the promotion you seek.
You can hire a coach to help you work
on boosting your confidence. If that’s
not in your budget, then consider asking
a trusted work colleague to signal when
you are sliding back into self-doubting
behavior. You can also work on increasing
your skill level by reading books or taking
online courses in areas where you want to
Not asking for a promotion
It is certainly
nice to be tapped on the shoulder
and asked to take on more responsibility
at work. But that is not always how
promotions occur. Sometimes the person
who asks for the job is the one who actually
You may be thinking, “How do I ask for
a job that I don’t even know is available?”
Well, you do not have to ask for a specific
promotion; you can simply tell your boss
you are interested in taking on more responsibility
and that you would like to be
considered for a promotion the next time
a position opens up. A reminder every
now and again will be helpful as well, to
ensure you stay on top of mind.
About the Author
Roberta Chinsky Matuson, The Talent
Maximizer® and President of Matuson
Consulting, helps organizations achieve
dramatic growth and market leadership
through the maximization of talent. She
is the author of four books including the
newly released, The Magnetic Leader.